1. Forgiveness is not forced.
It is impossible to force yourself to forgive someone when all you can feel within you is seething rage at the mere thought of the person or the event. Real forgiveness comes from within. It comes at a point in time when the mind and body are ready to ‘let go’ of the events that caused the bitterness and resentment. It is possible to motivate yourself to move yourself towards forgiveness.
2. Forgiveness is not to ‘hold on’.
Forgiveness in its truest sense is ‘letting go’. Letting go has just one known meaning, and that is – LETTING GO. Once you ‘let go’ There is no trace of grudge or ill will left to hold on to. There is nothing left to bemoan or cry about. True forgiveness is to LET GO and move on in YOUR life.
3. Forgiveness does not counter accuse or justify.
True forgiveness is not all about the other. Neither is true forgiveness all about the self. True forgiveness does not accuse the other; neither does it justify the self. True forgiveness is that neutral space in mind where there is magnanimity towards the painful event, towards the other and towards oneself. In this vast, magnanimous, neutral space all there is, is a sense of understanding and acceptance – Understanding and acceptance for the other and understanding and acceptance for the self. A true understanding of limitations of the other and a true understanding of the limitations of the self. Once there nothing can stop the exhilarating liberation of forgiveness.
4. Forgiveness is not born through or raised out of anger.
Absolutely true!! Forgiveness lives diametrically opposite anger. They do not make good pals yet they both have a rightful place in our emotional makeup. Forgiveness and anger co-exist, each for its own specific purpose. Where there is anger there is no forgiveness and where there is forgiveness – there can be no anger.
5. Forgiveness does not expect anything in return.
Forgiveness is for-giving. It may not always mean for-getting. When you forgive someone, you are definitely NOT choosing to go into full-blown amnesia about what happened. Memory would retain the picture of the event that caused the pain. What definitely changes is the intensity of the emotional pain when you 1) forgive 2) let go 3) move on. You experience freedom that you have never felt before. You know 1) what had happened 2) you chose to let go of the hurt 3) in the bargain you chose to let go of the pain 4) you discover the spot within yourself that is magnanimous beyond belief 5) you forgive AND 6) You free yourself forever of pain.
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