Precious gifts made of Gold

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Turning our backs on emotions, holding them in, not speaking about them, keeping them buried and then unloading them at the drop of a hat on an unsuspecting victim, is not only unfair, it also reveals the emotional growing-up that we need to do.

Emotions are not scary – not when they are ours…nor when they belong to others. Emotions are precious, priceless parameters that provide us with the obstacle course that helps our growth as a person. Learning to look at emotions as our friends instead of looking at them suspiciously or with fear, helps us learn to deal with emotions and express them with ease.

Of course, the process is not as easy as it is to read the above paragraphs.

A few things that one can do to become emotionally sturdier:

Identify your emotions

Become aware of your emotions

Find a chart that breaks down and points to the root-emotion.

Speak out your emotions

Write your emotions down

Observe emotions all around you

Understand the simple fact – YOU are a cluster of emotions

Love yourself – the emotion filled human form…traversing thru this life.

 

Author – Rachna

 

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You never really understand a person (2)…

Part 2 of You never really Understand a person

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And then there are times when you climb into the skin of another, wear their shoes and even feel where the shoe pinches – because you see, you both have the same contours on your feet. But you still do not understand why the other person behaved the way they did. So you take the advise that you previously read and imbibed. You do not try to understand them any more but work from that deep place of love within you and accept them. You expand your being and embrace the side of them that is hurting you so. You think the pain will ebb and become more bearable. You wait for it to subside. you wait and wait but it does not. Well, actually sometimes it does ebb and sometimes it does not. After all you are just as human as them.

So now what do you do?

Do you keep expanding and feeling the pain and the confusion as to why the pain does not go away when you are accepting someone from a place of love? Or do you put away your pain and obliterate it from your mind and your being?

You don’t do either.

What you do instead is – this time you understand yourself and look at yourself with the kindness that you would bestow upon another human being in pain. You understand your own self and feel love for this vulnerable person, that is you, who expanded themselves out of their comfort zone and out of their pain to embrace someone who hurt them. You did your best. You looked beyond their capacity to hurt and accepted them as they were. It did not change them or their capacity to hurt.

So now you look at yourself with the same kindness, love and empathy that you would feel, when you looked at your child with scraped knees and big large tears in those beautiful innocent eyes. This was an experience that taught you so much about them and about you.

It taught you to expand yourself and accept another without understanding them. It also brought you face to face with a beautiful new aspect within yourself. It got you in touch with you innermost depths and made you do something that is often not easy for us to do – To accept someone without understanding them.You did it. You held on.

Now it is time to take care of yourself.

You evaluate the pain and the consequences of this pain. You assess the other person and see them for the individual that they are. Do not cut corners. Do not give them a discount. Assess them and then choose if you would like to stay with the pain that you are feeling deep within your soul or would you like to let them go.

If you have chosen to let them go, you have made the right decision. Trust your instinct and let them go. Move away. Distance yourself.

Let go. 

Now.

You have done your part. Now it is time to heal the injured ‘you’.

  Let go of the sadness and the sorrow. The space that is emptied in your soul can be now filled with energy and brilliance of yourself and of those who really love you and care for you. Look around, find and acknowledge those who love you and never want to inflict pain upon you. Feel their love and energize yourself with genuineness and warmth.

Give yourself the time to feel. Give yourself the time to heal.

Be patient. Be generous. Be kind to you. Be all that you would be, towards another who was in pain.

Stay lodged … Stay quiet.
Take time to recover.
Take as long as you need to.
The rain will stop.
The howling winds will cease.
The sun will shine again.

And you will rise and bloom.

 

© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

 

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There are days…

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There are days
When I sense a vibration
In the winds
That will change the course
Of my life
The life that I know in the ‘now’.
 
 
There are days
When I sense the storms
Approaching
To uproot and reposition
My being
A being that just ‘is’ in the now
 
There are days
When the tremble of destiny
Forebodes
The roar that it eventually will become.
Transforming
My breath, my being, my everything that ‘was’…in the now.
 
On such days
I hold my breath
And then release it with ease
Ebbing away
The fears
Of this frail human mind
 
Embracing the truth
Of knowing my ‘not knowing’
The abyss of the ‘unknown’ ahead
Juxtaposed
By the silhouette of the new mountain
That I was just beginning to climb.


© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

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And the page turned..

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Changed homes
Changed cities
Changed life

Familiar
To
Unfamiliar

Twin Towers to Ground Zero

Home changed
City changed
Life changed

Unfamiliar
Is
Now familiar

I have moved on..

Or have I ?

I wrote these lines when I first moved cities as a grown up.

It was a move within India, from Hyderabad to Bangalore.  It was not my first move though. My parents had moved from Madhya Pradesh to Hyderabad in Andhra Pradesh when I was 8 and my little brother was 4. Even though little, it was not an easy move for me and I am sure neither was it for my brother. A lot changed and simple coping mechanisms were developed in their own unique ways by 2 kids, to survive the massive change. It was a not an easy move for a child who came from a Hindi speaking state and school to move into an English school and Telugu speaking state. A lot changed – personally, academically and socially. But of course when you are thrown into a cauldron of soup, you kinda learn to warm up slowly until you reach that level where you are deliciously perfect.

My second Move was from Hyderabad to Bangalore. Bangalore, a city that despite the initial discomfort became home in true sense. A city that allowed me to grow up professionally, emotionally and spiritually. Life got awesomely beautiful with my little bubba , my son, who filled my days with sunlight. Soup continued to simmer.

The third move was from Bangalore, India to Munich, Germany. Once again the primary changes were the language, social interactions and profession related. All good – Cauldron churning at the best temperature – almost mid way.

A dash of creme and some herbs to bring out the flavours & add the mellowness to that soup in the making. Here comes the fourth move. This time from Germany to England. Unexpected yet known and anticipated at a deep inner level. Its been almost 25 days and the physical settling in is happening.

By now I know that this is a passing phase.

It has been amazingly interesting to stay in the present and know that it is turning into the past.  I literally feel the pages of time turning over and its an extraordinary feeling.  I cannot explain this experience, just like I cannot explain to anyone what ‘sweet’ tastes like. The frequency needs to be tuned into to go thru this experience and that dear friends, is a matter of time.

 

© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

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Fear – That monster under your bed

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Fear holds us back…more often than it should. Fear restricts us and places boundaries on that, which we are perfectly capable of achieving. We have learnt that it is safer to fit into the contained mold of known emotions, known territory, known work/job criterion. We have learnt that trying something new or choosing something, that not many others choose, is risky.

Safe is traditionally what we do…despite the innumerable examples that we see, read and hear about otherwise. We choose to obliterate the methodology and the realness of people who have stepped out of the safe boundaries despite their fears and apprehensions. We categorize them as ‘brave’ or ‘lucky’. We choose to revere them and say – “Wow, I wish I could do that !!” Well, why can’t you? Who stops you from achieving what you ‘want’ to achieve? Who is holding you back?

I think successful people are not fearless or unafraid. I think successful people choose to keep going, despite their fears. I think success depends upon how well one is aware of one’s fears. It also depends upon how well one understands these fears and deals with them.

It is alright to know that there is a monster under the bed. Being aware of the monster under the bed, allows us to prepare ourselves to deal with that very monster under the bed, and identical ones that might appear thru the night. Similarly it is alright to have fears and to be aware of these fears. Being aware of our fears allows us to prepare ourselves to deal with these fears and other identical ones that might appear as life goes by. Being aware allows us the following choices 1) deal with the fears 2) let go of the fears and 3) sometimes just make peace with them. Awareness is the most powerful tool we possess, towards making a change. 

In the words of the wise – “A further sign of health is that we don’t become undone by fear and trembling, but we take it as a message that it’s time to stop struggling and look directly at what’s threatening us. ”  – Pema Chödrön

So, It is alright:

To have fears.

It is alright to be aware of your fears.

It is alright to choose to deal with your fears.

It is alright to let go of your fears.

It is also alright to make peace with your fears.

What is not alright is:

To continue feeding your fears

To continue staying frozen by your fears

To continue walking a few steps behind everyone else, due to your fears

And

To continue staying still because of your fears.

-Rachna

 

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Rachna

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Ripples of truth

 

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And just like that the dream shattered.

Even though she had suspected for a while that it would, the sound of the crash was louder than she had expected.

Here is the thing about broken dreams. They are not easy to deal with. They crash and they scatter all over, creating a big mess that needs to be swept up. Sometimes the saving grace is  that people understands this particular sorrow of loss. In reality they may have helped bring on the process of shattering or even actually taken over and shattered the dream. But when they see you standing in silence and and looking at those scattered pieces, tears streaming down your cheeks – they sometimes do understands. At times you also get lucky enough to have everyone step back and allow you the time to mourn the loss.

In this respect, she got lucky. The world stepped back and allowed her the space to absorb the sight of those little bits and pieces that her dream had shattered into. Thru the haze of her misty eyes, she could see her reflection, her ambitions, her plans and her future in each one of those tiny pieces. Potentially this would have been a good time to sink into a depression or have a nervous breakdown – like the books suggested or the umpteen number of movies portrayed. It would be easy and everyone would actually understand. She could withdraw from all the pain that surrounded her being, and retreat into the gentle white softness of silence.

She felt alone and unsupported. It seemed like everyone had given up on her. She felt completely written off – devoid of potential or a possible future. There is something about the lack of ‘show of support’. If it does not happen at the right time – it becomes ineffective, like medication that has passed its expiry date. In her case, the lack of ‘words of support’ gave rise to a silence within her being, that she found strangely peaceful. It was a space where she could experience and see everyone as they were. No layers of words to cover up their real thoughts – no pretense of love. Just plain indifference that she found easy to accept. This actually seemed really nice. She liked the feeling. It was akin to wearing no makeup – which she disliked wearing. It felt like being alone  in nature, under the sky – in her minuscule spot in the universe. A spot that belonged to her.

And then, in that silent space, something magnificent happened. Amidst the sounds of her dream crashing and reverberating loudly – there were ripples of a stark realization that echoed into infinite loops, through the eternal vastness of the universe.

She had not yet given up on herself – not yet.

She had not written herself off

This is what mattered.

This is ALL that mattered.

 

Author – ©Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

 

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Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life

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Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life

 

“Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant;

They too have their story.

Be yourself.

Especially do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love

Ffor in the face of all aridity and disenchantment

It is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you from misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with imaginings.

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,

Whatever you conceive Him to be,

And whatever your labours and aspirations,

In the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all it’s sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.”

― Max Ehrmann, Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life

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Making the Ordinary Extraordinary – Mridula Kaul (Guest Blog 2)

A beautiful blog post by Mridula Kaul, a dear friend and a fabulous human being – kind, gentle, funny, spontaneous & innovative. She thinks and feels from her heart and manages to convert those thoughts and feelings to beautiful words – I am very proud to add her writing to my blog. This is the second write-up that Mridula has graciously shared on my blog. 

Mridula, a versatile netizen, is a resident of UK. 

 

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People often say they want to be free. This is the biggest hoax of all time. It’s a beautiful lie packaged in the most enticing gossamer. We don’t want to be free. We want chains. Because chains create a bond with people, material possessions, emotions and memories even. We don’t want to break away from those connections, that would require courage and we’re not really built to be courageous, normally – well, normal people under normal circumstances don’t need to display courage unless they’re faced with extraordinary situations. So we don’t want to be free or courageous (except when it’s founded in a deep-rooted, all-consuming desire for something that just can’t be ignored – more on that in my next post). Happy days! Anything else we don’t want? Of course – misery! So it stands to reason that if we don’t want misery, we must want the opposite of it. And yet most normal people are anything but happy. It’s almost like they find a vicarious pleasure in counting all the things that make their life sad or difficult.

And then there were three – freedom, courage and happiness, we’re having none of these bad boys. Crikey, so what do we want? After much deliberation (many bottles of alcohol were tested to prove this theory), I’ve concluded that ultimately, we just want to escape reality. Because that is ordinary and no one in their right mind wants ordinary. Like good, evolved, migratory animals, we plan a holiday to exotic or not so exotic locales, only the reason is not so much to escape dismal weather conditions but the drudgery of life. If we can’t, we watch movies that transport us to those locales and make us believe we could look like someone special so we then go and buy attire based on current fashion trends and wear make up that makes us look like our favourite celebrities. We eat (or would certainly like to) in restaurants that the rich and famous dine in, reading books about things we would love to do but probably never will. We make bucket lists because we ‘only live once’. We look for perfect excitement outside to make up for what’s missing in our imperfect relationships.

I get it. I get the need for us to do this. What I don’t understand is the extent to which we inconvenience ourselves to get this brief respite from reality. I say brief because like all good, migratory animals, we do make our way back ‘home’ even if that home is far from ideal. It might be out of habit or perhaps, because we know, deep inside that the migratory flight doesn’t have the permanence or comfort we seek. So I say, let’s not be ashamed of celebrating the ordinary. Why lament that walk because you don’t have a car – enjoy the great outdoors instead and revel in the post exercise after-glow; bemoan not that small, quirky home – it is much-loved and sees conversations, happiness and warmth in as much abundance if not more, as the ten bedroom mansion you see on your walk home everyday; be grateful for those wrinkles, they prove you’ve lived, loved and laughed. And if all this ordinariness feels good, makes your eyes twinkle and creates memories that will long outlast what you are trying to escape, then that for me, is extraordinary.

 

– Mridula Kaul

 

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Random act of Kindness – Mridula Kaul ( Guest Blog 1 )

A beautiful blog post by Mridula Kaul, a dear friend and a fabulous human being – kind, gentle, funny, spontaneous & innovative. She thinks and feels from her heart and manages to convert those thoughts and feelings to beautiful words – I am very proud to add her writing to my blog. This will be a  short series with snippets of writing that Mridula has graciously agreed to share on my blog. 

Mridula, a versatile netizen, is a resident of UK. 

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As I sailed through the sea of commuters gushing out of my train at Charing Cross, I noticed a young lady make a beeline for the nearest Costa and grab a hot beverage. Her stilettos clacketteering (I know there isn’t a word like that but indulge me if you would), she checked her smartphone and smiled (I could see her cheeks lifting up her lips, prompted presumably by interesting texts or funny comments on her FB pictures) and then rushed towards to the man who sells The Big Issue (the man who stands at the same spot outside the station, come rain, snow or shine) in a way that only a customer who is intent on buying something, would do. At this point, I would ordinarily have smiled at the man as I do every morning, and quickened my steps to get to the office. Today was different. The lady handed over her take-away coffee cup to the man, covering both his freezing hands with her gloved ones. ‘There you go, swee’haaa!!’ she said in her Saaf London accent, ‘thaw you might need thaa!!’ With that, she pecked him on his cheek, gave him a wink and clacketteered away, as he watched on stunned. Not many would have bought a copy of his Big Issue. But not one person would ever have bought him a coffee, of that I am certain. In the world we live in, full of cruelty and horror of unheard and unseen proportions, this small act of kindness suddenly restored my faith in humanity. But then, I’m easily pleased. I haven’t been able to wipe the smile off my face since.

-Mridula Kaul

 

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Be the change you wish to see

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(This post targets the hatred and mistrust that the Muslim community is facing all over the world – in view of the Paris attack. There were seven coordinated terror attacks in Paris carried out by militants, killing at least 129 people.)

 

It is saddening to hear generalizations that are being made, about entire communities, based on the ugly actions of some.

In times of crisis such as these, it would help to remember that we have been blessed with intelligent minds (I know I know I am generalizing here) that are capable of understanding a simple fact that – terrorism is based in minds – killing innocent people in Paris, Lebanon, Iraq or lynching a person on the streets because he or she went against your beliefs, raping a little child, because that child was available or abducting girls in Nigeria – each one of those qualify as terrorist activities.

Terrorism is terrorism, in all its heinous, wretched, evil forms. It is a disease of the worst kind and needs to be dealt with and eradicated. No terrorist should be allowed to go scot-free for killing and terrorizing innocent people.

However, terrorism has nothing to do with those innocent others in the community or race who by no choice of theirs, happen to have been born in the same religion/race/community/caste as that of the terrorists. All Muslims cannot be blamed for the horrendous criminal deed of Isis/Daesh…just as all Hindus cannot be blamed for the lynchings that took place because someone happened to eat beef nor can all Buddhists be blamed for torturing and killing Muslims in Myanmar or all Christians be blamed for the Wisconsin Sikh Temple massacre.

Terrorism is a cowardly, destructive instinct that hides behind religion, beliefs and a sense of misplaced entitlement. Anders Behring Breivik, KKK, Al Quaida, Daesh and many more like them are terrorists – All Christians, all Atheists, all Muslims are NOT. They cannot and should not be condemned because some terrorists belong to the same religion of community as them.

Using our beautiful, intelligent minds we can work towards finding solutions instead of spewing hatred over social media. Let us think before we speak or write on facebook/twitter and elsewhere and let us pledge to think twice before we question people and their loyalty. Social Media is free but our words  have value. It is completely upto us to make that value negative or positive.

Let’s choose to be tolerant, aware, magnanimous human beings just as we want our children to be – Let us model the behaviour not just for the times that we are in but also for our children so they can learn and grow up to be large-hearted, magnanimous loving people who can distinguish between a diseased terrorist and a religion/community in which the terrorist happened to have been born.

Today there is pain and trauma that all of us are dealing with – some directly and some indirectly. Many of us are broken-hearted with the violence that took place and the beautiful lives that were lost due to that horrifying, mindless violence – Not just in Paris but in so many parts of the world.

Awareness, Kindness, Understanding and Love might just be the right place to start the healing process.

“Be the change you wish to see”

 

– Rachna

 

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You never really understand a person…

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“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” – Harper Lee

And sometimes despite climbing inside a person’s skin, you may still not ‘understand’ them or what drove them to behave in a certain way. When you find yourself in that spot, it might be a good time to remember that you perhaps may not understand everyone and their behaviour but you have the infinite capacity within to accept and love them despite all that they are, all that they do…and however different they might seem to be. Your heart is filled with a love that is deeper than the ocean and you can choose to use that ‘depth’ to accept that which you cannot understand and that which is so different to anything that you have known.

Go on…try it.

©Rachna (Author)

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Take off that mask !

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Wearing a mask
Day in and day out
Lonely & exhausted
Carrying the charade, you think you must.
You begin to forget
Who you really are

That mask
Your protection & your barrier
Between you and you.
Alienating and crumbling
Fragmenting your sense of self
Tearing into your integrity

How did you forget?
The core of your being
Your beautiful soul
That exists without masks
Intrinsically quiet and observant
Willing to open up its fragrance to the world.

Oh, why do you cover all that beauty
With that unforgiving mask
I know, life has been tough
I know you surrendered
Took the incentive
And raised the barriers

But you are beautiful
Despite the tears that stain your cheeks
With all that you consider imperfect within
Along with broken dreams and that abyss of sorrow
Unmet desires and unfulfilled yearnings
Despite infidelities and broken trust

You are vast
You are infinite
I know you feel small
But that you are not
You are powerful
You are love and courage personified

And you are here, now
Standing tall in this precious space
Own your thoughts
Feel the eternal & the finite
For you are
The unmasked master of your destiny

©Rachna (Author)

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Dear Human … You’ve got it all wrong

 

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The other choice…

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Universe has a way of taking care of our needs.

Most of us have experienced times in our lives when we have felt beaten down to the bone, been accused unfairly, spoken about in an unjust manner, felt rejected, dejected, abandoned and humiliated by those we love dearly. The pain is excruciating and deep – mainly because in our perception, those we who we ‘love’ carried out this painful behaviour.

In our journey of emotional & spiritual growth, it is important to understand that people who indulge in that behaviour and more, are perhaps the best catalysts in our lives for us to learn the soul – lessons of acceptance, unconditional love and patience.

If we understand their role in our lives, then we would also understand that they are here to teach us acceptance of the ‘human’ in them, despite their behaviour. They provide us with an opportunity to learn to love them as they are – however hard a task that might be. They also provide us an alternate or complementary opportunity to stand up for our selves as and when required.

When we understand their role in our lives and in their contribution to our emotional growth, we are able to look at these souls with hearts filled with love and understanding. We begin to understand that most likely, they are unaware of how their behaviour affects us or anyone else for that matter. How can we possibly hold anger or misgiving against people who are saying things or displaying behaviour that is based in total unawareness? How does one stay angry with someone who is completely oblivious of the effect their behaviour is having on others?

Having said that, it is to be remembered that we cannot and must not absolve them of their responsibility for their behaviour. Words and actions never form on the tongue. They are born out of a thought process. When someone is obnoxious, rude or plain uncaring in their words and actions towards us, obviously they have made a choice to be that way. They had a choice to be rude, obnoxious, and hurtful OR to be silent (in their actions and words). They had a choice and they made a choice. Similarly we have a choice 1) to be furious with their behaviour and retaliate and/or break- up with them 2) we have a choice to understand their role in our lives and look at the positive outcome of such relationships 3) we also have a choice to ignore them, their behaviour and carry on as before.

In this article I am choosing to go along with choice # 2.

Every choice we make is followed by the consequences of that choice. Sometimes we think thru the consequences and sometimes we don’t.  Either ways consequences loom large on the horizon of every single action we take. The fact that someone chose to be hurtful makes them responsible for the consequences of their actions. Each one of us has a choice to act in a certain way – whatever the situation. Each one of us is responsible – for the consequences of the choice that we made. I know I am.

They choose to be hurtful and oblivious of effect of their actions, we choose to be understanding of their behaviours – whilst experiencing emotional and spiritual growth, and learning to safeguard ourselves.

Loving and accepting people who hurt us with their pain-inflicting words and hurtful actions, is our choice…similarly we also have a choice to limit our interactions with them to safeguard our boundaries from getting breached each time we interact with them.

You owe that to you and I owe the same to me.

As balanced we might be as individuals, whatever professions we might belong to, at the end of the day each one of us is a human being, encompassed with human emotions and fallibility. Just like a teacher may not know all answers all the time, a beautician may have a sudden attack of acne or have a bad hair day and an artist may feel completely deprived of creativity – there can be enough and more storms that rage within a human heart that are capable of creating an imbalance within a person – whatever the reason.

Understanding , acceptance and love are at the core of that we are all made of.

It’s our duty and our honour to find that core and work from it as a base for our day-to-day lives. When we come from love, understanding and acceptance – all battles dissolve. All that is left and surrounds us is peace and tranquility. We have started out on the path of letting go of addictive ‘needs’ and ‘wants’. We still have needs and wants but without the addictive factor that makes them rule our lives. It’s wonderful to understand those who inflict pain upon us through their behaviour, but it is also marvelous to understand our need to safeguard ourselves by understanding and limiting the toxic interactions.

As I said at the beginning of this post, Universe has a way of taking care of our needs – for the universe never abandons its child.

This morning as I looked around to find a quote for the readers on my Facebook page – this is what I chanced upon…something that was hidden in my archives and something that speaks loud and clear to each one of us – providing us with the required permissions and affirming our rights in the gentlest ways possible.

“You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you – it’s something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.”
― Daniell Koepke

 

Need I say more?

 

©Rachna (Author)

 

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You think you are the only one?

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The truth…

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Picture Credit – Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

 

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Are you…

Disclaimer: This poem is not about me ( I wish it was, but it is not). It is based on feelings that ‘I felt’ when I saw a photograph of a man with his shades on – It was a powerful picture that spoke volumes (to me). This poem is an expression of my perception of his ‘probable’ feelings. And as we all know perception are just that – perceptions !!! But the picture moved me enough to help me create this little poem reflecting – resignation, annoyance, pride, courage, determination, helplessness as well as hope of self-perseverance. For that I am very grateful.

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You said you wanted to see my eyes

Are you brave enough?
To look into them
Without shuffling on your feet?
Can you bear to see the pain
And not squirm
Or fidget with your scarf?

Will you flinch when you see the raw anger
That oozes out…seeps
Simply because it’s tired of raging
Do you have the nerve to face
Your own sadness
Reflected in my eyes?

Can you stand quietly,
And not drop words
Of sympathy
Like coins in an empty box?
Nor look away
Because you cannot bear to feel my pain

If your answer is – Yes
Then I will undress my eyes
And let yours see thru mine.

 ©Rachna

Picture Credit – From the Internet – Hugh Laurie (Edited by Rachna Sharma Sirtaj)

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The Awakening

Someone tagged me in this beautiful post somewhere on the internet. It has been sitting in my drafts for a while now and perhaps today is the right day to share this on my blog. Hope you will sigh with happiness as you read this … just as I did.

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A time comes in your life when in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH … Enough of fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.

You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new-found confidence is born of self-approval.

Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties…and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin re-assessing and re-defining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not you job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people…and you lean not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

– Author Unknown

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Box full of darkness

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Blessings come in many forms, including darkness and despair. The learning amassed from sorrow, grief, loss and abandonment is a learning that has the deepest roots. Do not be afraid of the darkness or the pain that it entails…for hidden within the dark pain is the sweet fruit of emotional and spiritual growth. Next time, when you step into the darkness…or receive it as a gift from someone you love or loved, tell yourself –  ‘Yay…Here I grow again’.

 

– Rachna

 

 

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When defeat engulfs your being…

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When defeat engulfs your being
Rocking you with grief
Of the hopes lost
And dreams shattered

When your vision mists up
From the warm tears
That sit deep
Within the well of your being

When sorrow embraces your soul
In a cold grip that clutches your heart
And points to the dark road
That leads nowhere

When the world seems
Dreary and fearsome
Your eyes start to reveal
Fear and hopelessness

When you let go
And start to fall
Into the bottomless abyss
Without a hand to hold

When you hear the voice
Deep within
Repeating the oft asked
‘Why me?’

Then is the time
To turn around
And look at fear
Squarely in its eyes

As you feel your feet
Finding the bottom
Of the bottomless abyss
Ask “Why not me?”

And when you say those words
You will find your missing strength
For deep within your soul
You already know

Even abysses come to an end
Every darkness turns to dawn
Winter leads to spring
And tears actually stop

A realization dawns upon you
You are safe
Even in the dark unending ocean
That life has turned into

Just take
One step after another
Breathe in and breathe out
One day at a time

Ebb and flow; Fall and rise

Life
It just goes on.

– ©Rachna (Author)

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