There are days…

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There are days
When I sense a vibration
In the winds
That will change the course
Of my life
The life that I know in the ‘now’.
 
 
There are days
When I sense the storms
Approaching
To uproot and reposition
My being
A being that just ‘is’ in the now
 
There are days
When the tremble of destiny
Forebodes
The roar that it eventually will become.
Transforming
My breath, my being, my everything that ‘was’…in the now.
 
On such days
I hold my breath
And then release it with ease
Ebbing away
The fears
Of this frail human mind
 
Embracing the truth
Of knowing my ‘not knowing’
The abyss of the ‘unknown’ ahead
Juxtaposed
By the silhouette of the new mountain
That I was just beginning to climb.


© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

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And the page turned..

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Changed homes
Changed cities
Changed life

Familiar
To
Unfamiliar

Twin Towers to Ground Zero

Home changed
City changed
Life changed

Unfamiliar
Is
Now familiar

I have moved on..

Or have I ?

I wrote these lines when I first moved cities as a grown up.

It was a move within India, from Hyderabad to Bangalore.  It was not my first move though. My parents had moved from Madhya Pradesh to Hyderabad in Andhra Pradesh when I was 8 and my little brother was 4. Even though little, it was not an easy move for me and I am sure neither was it for my brother. A lot changed and simple coping mechanisms were developed in their own unique ways by 2 kids, to survive the massive change. It was a not an easy move for a child who came from a Hindi speaking state and school to move into an English school and Telugu speaking state. A lot changed – personally, academically and socially. But of course when you are thrown into a cauldron of soup, you kinda learn to warm up slowly until you reach that level where you are deliciously perfect.

My second Move was from Hyderabad to Bangalore. Bangalore, a city that despite the initial discomfort became home in true sense. A city that allowed me to grow up professionally, emotionally and spiritually. Life got awesomely beautiful with my little bubba , my son, who filled my days with sunlight. Soup continued to simmer.

The third move was from Bangalore, India to Munich, Germany. Once again the primary changes were the language, social interactions and profession related. All good – Cauldron churning at the best temperature – almost mid way.

A dash of creme and some herbs to bring out the flavours & add the mellowness to that soup in the making. Here comes the fourth move. This time from Germany to England. Unexpected yet known and anticipated at a deep inner level. Its been almost 25 days and the physical settling in is happening.

By now I know that this is a passing phase.

It has been amazingly interesting to stay in the present and know that it is turning into the past.  I literally feel the pages of time turning over and its an extraordinary feeling.  I cannot explain this experience, just like I cannot explain to anyone what ‘sweet’ tastes like. The frequency needs to be tuned into to go thru this experience and that dear friends, is a matter of time.

 

© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

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Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life

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Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life

 

“Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant;

They too have their story.

Be yourself.

Especially do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love

Ffor in the face of all aridity and disenchantment

It is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you from misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with imaginings.

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,

Whatever you conceive Him to be,

And whatever your labours and aspirations,

In the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all it’s sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.”

― Max Ehrmann, Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life

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The Awakening

Someone tagged me in this beautiful post somewhere on the internet. It has been sitting in my drafts for a while now and perhaps today is the right day to share this on my blog. Hope you will sigh with happiness as you read this … just as I did.

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A time comes in your life when in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH … Enough of fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.

You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new-found confidence is born of self-approval.

Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties…and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin re-assessing and re-defining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not you job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people…and you lean not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

– Author Unknown

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Knowing When To Let Go

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This wonderful person literally speaks for me … sometimes connecting beautifully with the frequency that my mind might be percolating at. Her wise words provide insights to many and soothe many hearts. I absolutely love her writing style and her words. Here is an update from this beautiful soul –  Oriah Mountain Dreamer.

 

Knowing When To Let Go

Sometimes, even when we make a choice that is good for us, good for our life, perhaps even good for others, there can still be loss and sadness.

Recently, I let go of someone, quietly stepped away from a friendship. I told the truth, told them I simply did not have the energy for what was happening between us, or would have to happen- need to be talked about, sorted out, resolved, agreed to- for the friendship to continue in a real and authentic way,

It was the right choice. I really don’t have the energy to bridge the chasm that had opened up around behaviour that was, to me, inexplicable. I don’t think the behaviour was intended to be hurtful. It was an expression of something that was probably true for the other on some level. Although it was directed at me, I don’t think it was really about me at all.

And I could be wrong about all of that. Maybe the behaviour made perfect sense, and maybe it was about me, I can’t really know for sure. But I did know that the distance it created would need to be bridged for continued connection.

One of the gifts of having had a chronic illness for many years is that I know how much energy things take and whether or not that energy is available to me in the present. It took me longer than I’d like to admit to heed this knowing, to accept when I cannot do something without consequences for my health and to the detriment of other areas of my life that feed my heart and soul.

But knowing when I can’t do something, knowing I need to step away, doesn’t mean I don’t feel the loss. I do.

When I was younger, to remove myself I had to make the other wrong, had to churn up anger and muddy my memories with reminders of real and imagined slights and hurts. Of course, the downside of not needing to do this, of simply knowing when it is time to step away even as I appreciate the places where we touched each other, shared laughter, offered support in the past.. . . . is that the loss is felt fully- an ache I meet with prayers for the other, hopes for their happiness and well-being.

Learning to let go when the time is right. Knowing what we really can and can’t do and accepting this. Being willing to take responsibility for our choices. Telling the truth. Not needing to make the other wrong. Feeling the loss, letting the sadness that arises keep the heart soft when the other comes to mind. Being willing to feel it all. Remembering that the future is unpredictable.

I am so grateful for the connection that was, and I feel blessed to have let go when the time was right.

Not easy. Not excruciating. Just life as a human being.

~Oriah Mountain Dreamer (c) 2014

 

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Don’t let this world make you bitter.

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At the bottom of her heart, however, she was waiting for something to happen. Like shipwrecked sailors, she turned despairing eyes upon the solitude of her life, seeking afar off some white sail in the mists of the horizon. She did not know what this chance would be, what wind would bring it her, towards what shore it would drive her, if it would be a shallop or a three-decker, laden with anguish or full of bliss to the portholes. But each morning, as she awoke, she hoped it would come that day; she listened to every sound, sprang up with a start, wondered that it did not come; then at sunset, always more saddened, she longed for the morrow.”

Gustave Flaubert Madame Bovary

 

I completed this painting a while ago ( a few days before I left Munich for 5 weeks). This one followed ‘Amalgamation‘ and was inspired by a picture I found online. The final painting took shape slowly…evoking deep emotions at times and making me learn more than what I previously knew. You see, I am not a trained artist and generally do not feel confident of my painting skills at all. Buuuut…despite all that – I love to paint. (Just as much as I love to write) I love the colours, the feel of the brush strokes on the canvas, the smell of turpentine and linseed oil. I love the mediums I use and most of all I love the person I am when I am painting and creating something on my own. I feel free, eclectic…wild and beautiful – all at once – and that ensures that I usually start another painting, soon after finishing the current one. I sincerely hope, your visit here today has been worth your time and patient reading.

To complete this post…here is something that kinda resonates with me – “Painting reflects. It kills you in a colourful shower of emptiness. Flatness. Randomness. And beauty. Yes, it is the most pure beauty I have ever felt in my life.”

 
Nigel Tomm

 

©Rachna (Author)

 
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Choose Well.

This picture card is one of those that you might see many times over on my blog. I post, re-post and re-repost, messages that are very close to my heart, and this one definitely rests somewhere right on top of the list.

Kindly share this further – on your twitter/Facebook or WordPress pages. Thank you in advance for being here, reading what I post and encouraging me constantly & consistently.

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A chance to grow…

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Universe has a way of taking care of our needs.

 
Most of us have experienced times in our lives when we have felt beaten down to the bone, been unfairly accused, unjustly spoken about, felt rejected, abandoned and humiliated by those we love dearly. The pain is excruciating and deep – mostly because people who we ‘love’ carried out this painful behaviour.

 
In our journey of emotional & spiritual growth, it is important to understand that people who indulge in that behaviour and more are perhaps the best catalysts in our lives for us to learn the soul – lessons of acceptance, unconditional love and patience.

 
If we understand their role in our lives, then we would also understand that they are here to teach us acceptance of the human being in them, despite their behaviour. They provide us with an opportunity to learn to love them as they are – however hard a task that might be. They also provide us an alternate or complementary opportunity to stand up for our selves as and when required.

 
When we understand their role in our lives and their contribution to our emotional growth, we are able to look at these souls with a heart filled with love and understanding. We begin to understand that they are unaware of how their behaviour affects us or anyone else for that matter. How can we possibly hold anger or misgiving against people who are saying things or displaying behaviour that is based in total unawareness? How does one stay angry with someone who is completely oblivious of the effect their behaviour is having on others?

 
Having said that, It is to be remembered that we cannot and must not absolve them of their responsibility for their behaviour. Words and actions never form on the tongue. They are born out of a thought process. When someone is obnoxious, rude or plain uncaring in their words and actions towards us, obviously they have made a choice to be that way. They had a choice to be rude, obnoxious, and hurtful OR to be silent (in their actions and words). They had a choice and they made a choice. For example: We have a choice 1) to be furious with their behaviour and retaliate or break- up with them 2) we have a choice to understand their role in our lives and look at the positive outcome of such relationships 3) we have a choice to ignore them, their behaviour and carry on as before.

 
Today we are choosing – ‘choice number 2’.

 
Every choice we make is followed by the consequences of that choice. Sometimes the consequences are thought thru and sometimes they are not. Either ways consequences loom large on the horizon of every single action we take. The fact that these people chose to be hurtful makes them responsible for the consequences of their actions. Each one of us has a choice to act in a certain way – whatever the situation and each one of us is responsible – for the consequences of the choice that we made. I know I am.

 
They choose to be hurtful and oblivious of effect of their actions, we choose to be understanding of their behaviours – whilst experiencing emotional and spiritual growth, and learning to safeguard ourselves.

 
Loving and accepting, those who hurt us with their pain inflicting words and hurtful actions, is our choice…similarly we also have a choice to limit our interactions with them to safeguard our boundaries from getting breached each time we interact with them.

 

You owe that to you and I owe the same to me.

 
As balanced we might be as individuals, whatever professions we might belong to, at the end of the day each one of us is a human being, encompassed with human emotions and fallibility. Just like a teacher may not know all answers all the time, a beautician may have a sudden attack of acne or have a bad hair day, an artist may feel completely deprived of creativity and a therapist may feel completely out of the loop with emotions running amok, there can be enough and more storms that rage within a human heart that are capable of imbalancing a person – whatever the reason.

 
Understanding , acceptance and love is the core that we are all made of. It’s an honour to find that core and work from it as a base for our day to day lives. It’s wonderful to understand those who inflict pain upon us through their behaviour, but it is also marvelous to understand our need to safeguard ourselves by understanding and limiting the toxic interactions.

 
As I said at the beginning of this post, Universe has a way of taking care of our needs – for the universe never abandons its child. This morning as I looked around to find a quote for the readers on my Facebook page – this is what I chanced upon…something that was hidden in my archives and something that speaks loud and clear to each one of us – providing us with the required permissions and affirming our rights in the gentlest ways possible.

 
“You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you – it’s something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.”

― Daniell Koepke

 

Need I say more?

 

©Rachna (Author)

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Home – where is it?

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I visited my parents and family in India and am now back in Germany. A good 5 weeks in India were just enough to put me in a loop of never-ending questions – most of which seemed to lack answers. It was a sense of floating in a state of statelessness. The country I knew so well is changing far too quickly. The cities I grew up in, studied and worked in…no more look the same. There are now thousands of newer buildings, new flyovers and bridges, metro rail system under construction and so so so many people occupying the same space as much lesser numbers did before. There were times aplenty when I found myself completely lost, within the labyrinth of those loopy, criss-cross roads.

When I was 8, my parents moved to another city…which meant we left behind the  ‘home of my birth and childhood’. The new city we moved to, saw us moving into 3 different houses before acquiring a house that we finally called ‘home’ again. Years passed. As the family structure changed (from Joint family to a smaller joint family to nuclear), my new home changed too. It was razed to the ground, giving place to an apartment block…taking with it many or most of my childhood landmarks and memories. Meanwhile I had met my husband and we got married. I moved into his home. Later we moved to another city, along with my toddler son and constructed our own home where we lived for 10 years before choosing to move to Germany.

I currently live in Germany and will soon touch the decade mark of my life here. Oh and just before you think this is where the home-saga ends – I would like you to know that I have plans of moving someplace else sometime soon 😉

To state what I am refraining myself from stating – I feel homeless.

Everything that I thought helped me anchor – is no more. My country, the cities I grew up in, ancestral homes, marital homes, familiar landscape, people I knew….everything is either no more or completely transformed. During this visit, my eyes constantly searched for the familiar in all the unfamiliarity. It almost felt like a state of statelessness….an expanded form that had no defining marks or boundaries.

Before this gets too melodramatic – I would like to steer myself back to the point that I wish to make.

This visit of mine has truly made me understand that my Home is where I am. Each place that I have lived in, in the past – constituted home for that period in time. When I left, that life turned into cherished memories – sometimes bitter…sometimes  sweet. Each ‘home’ gave me immense security as well as unconditional love and allowed me to make memories that I carry with me today and probably forever. Each home is distinct and special in my mind. Today I live in a country that I was not born in or grew up in. A country completely unfamiliar except for the deep soul-resonance I feel when I am here – and yet…this is home for now. I am safe and am in the process of living each day as the pages of my life turn and my story moves forward.

I do not know what tomorrow will bring – what I do I know is that, this feeling of being homeless yet extremely grounded, will always be the core of me. It’s a sense of exhilarating freedom – one that I have never experienced before. It is a new territory encompassing a whole gamut of brand new feelings. At the core of all these feelings is a feeling of being completely free and yet being deeply grounded in this vast universe. Feeling one with all and yet walking my path on my own. No place to call home – no possessions that attach me. Just a tiny speck walking with gratitude thru this time that life has graciously granted me.

There is much churning that is going on deep within me and probably you will hear some more rumbling or maybe some roars – Consider this a fair warning 😀

 

© Rachna

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Once in a while…

I truly got lucky. As I looked around on pinterest, this gem caught my eye. As there is no name named, I do not know who to credit the words on the card to. But whoever wrote these lines…is a very wise soul indeed.

And because they are so beautiful…the words just had to be shared further 🙂

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Did you say you were feeling ‘stuck’?

stuck_in_the_vortex_of_lifeWhen you find yourself ‘stuck’ in a situation and find yourself getting frustrated and filled with despair – take a step back emotionally and look at that situation and yourself. Put yourself in a neutral state of mind and emotions just for some time until you can examine the dynamics of the situation. Observe the emotions that arise in you. Look at your response to the situation. Listen to your heart and then listen to your head. Now, as difficult as it might seem – find the positive lesson or resource that you are gaining in the situation that you are stuck in. For example, resilience – when you and everything around you seems to be falling apart…or courage – when you are challenged to the core and yet stay within the scary parameters of a situation and are not reaching out or getting out. Identify the positive lesson that you are learning in the situation that you feel ‘stuck’ in.. Find the resource that you are gathering, whilst remaining stuck. If you cannot seem to identify the positive resource, seek a non-judgmental friend who will help you find and pin point the positive resource that is building up within you, in the hardest of times that you are  going through.

This resource and positive learning is the treasure that you are chasing. Become aware that you are choosing to stay stuck for the time being because your soul is learning the lessons that it needs to learn. You are accumulating the resource/s that you probably don’t have enough of. You are learning your most needed learning by putting yourself through the practical experience of being in a terribly tough and harsh situation. A situation that you can get out of but for some unknown reason you are not doing so. Now you know the reason. This is the time of your learning…your time to grow – emotionally and spiritually.

Focus on the learning that is coming your way. Focus on it when despair takes over. Once you start noticing and focusing, you will find your coffers filling up with lessons that your soul needs to learn and the courage and resilience multiplying boundlessly. Before long you will see the sticky situation you have been ‘stuck’ in is getting less stickier and you are able to get ‘unstuck’ and have more choices ahead. Choices that probably always existed but you did not see them.

Now that you are better aware and in a place where you can understand yourself better, choose to get ‘unstuck’. Choose to retain what you have learnt so that you do not encounter an identical situation again. Choose now to gather your power and move forward in this phase of your life.

Choose love, kindness, patience and forgiveness for yourself.

Choose love, kindness, patience and forgiveness for others.

©Rachna (Author)

 

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To Rock or Not to Rock – That is the question…and the answer too !!

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Mind games are akin to sitting on the little wooden rocking horse. We think we are on top of the situation…we think we are moving…we think we will get somewhere. In reality, the rocking horse keeps rocking…the person sitting on the horse keeps sitting…..and Life moves on.

A few simple rules to avoid mind-games:

  • LISTEN – carefully, intently and with interest.
  • Simply ASK for what you need.
  • Know that you can say NO.
  • Know that you can say YES.
  • If you do not know what you want, TAKE YOUR TIME to think about it.
  • Know that the other person CANNOT read your mind…so don’t expect them to.
  • Ask questions WHEN you don’t understand something.
  • ASK for a CLARIFICATION when you feel confused.
  • DO NOT ASSUME.
  • TALK it out – for when you don’t, a lot remains unsaid, assumed or misunderstood.
  • DO NOT BLAME without considering all aspects with a fair perspective.
  • Say NO, when you cannot do something.
  • If you have said YES, then do it willingly.
  • If you do not agree – SAY SO.
  • If you have changed your mind about something – INFORM the other people involved.

And when you see the results, after staying out of Mind games – SMILE … and mean it.

 

Author – Rachna

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Autobiography in five short chapters – Portia Nelson

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Chapter I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
My eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.

 

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with an abundance of Love & Peace

Rachna

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Poetry Credit – Portia Nelson ; Autobiography in five short chapters
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You have to do the hard Things – Dan Waldschmidt

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A brilliant collection of some extremely important points, that must be incorporated in a life that has set out to achieve a goal – be it a professional goal or a goal in personal sphere of relationships or spirituality.

You Have To Do The Hard Things.

You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.

You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.

You have to give more than you get in return right away.

You have to care more about others than they care about you.

You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.

You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing if safe seems smarter.

You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.

You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.

You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.

You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.

You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts”.

You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.

You have try and fail and try again.

You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.

You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.

You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.

You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.

You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

You have to do the hard things.

The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you. The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on.

Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

The hard things are the easiest things to avoid.  To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you.

The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do.

Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

On his page, Dan is described as “a business strategist. A popular speaker. And an ultra-runner. Dan and his team help companies all over the world arrive at business-changing breakthrough ideas by moving past outdated conventional wisdom, social peer pressure, and the selfish behaviors that stop them from being high performers.”

He very kindly gave me the permission to use his post and publish it on my blog space. You can find Dan Waldschmidt right here —> Dan Waldschmidt

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Rachna Sharma Sirtaj – Healing through Inner Wisdom
Motivational Thoughts

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with an abundance of Love & Peace

Rachna

© Copyright 2014. Tranquil Space Limited. All Rights Reserved

It’s OK to say NO !!!

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Have there been times when you have caught yourself in a situation, you did not want to be in – because you agreed to do something that you reeeaaalllly did not want to do? Have you found yourself gritting your teeth and fuming mad with yourself for your inability to say a clear NO ? Have you found yourself stuck in a situation, that you promised yourself will not happen again, once again because you could not say NO?

I know I have been there. I know how awfully tough it was for me to say NO. I know how miserable I felt and how many I did not say NO, just to avoid looking at the disappointment in the eyes of others. I also know how much I struggled to keep up any promise that I had made, because I could not say NO.

 That was long ago.

I have a come a long way and despite an odd instance now and then…it is fairly easy for me to evaluate the situation and consider the pros and cons before I make a commitment. It is not difficult for me to say NO when I feel deprived of time or resources on my part to undertake a commitment. It is simple if I trust the other person to understand my limitations…for they usually do. 

It takes time and an awful lot of work on oneself to understand that when you say NO and mean NO, it is clear communication. You saying NO does not turn you into a bad person or an uncaring, hard hard-hearted monster nor does it reduce the other person into a pile of helpless crumbling rubble. It is advisable to trust the other person to understand your limitations or inability to make a commitment. Your inability or unwillingness to undertake a project or to do a favour to someone does not in any way mean that you do not care enough. Your inability to undertake a project or to do a favour to someone just reflects your inability to do so at that point in time. The fact is that when you clearly communicate that inability, it helps the other person to work out another solution without being wrapped in your unclear fog of  a ‘Yes…No…Maybe’  loop.

Below are some thoughts that might benefit you, as you read them. Read them as often as you need to. Read them till your soul remembers the magnificence of being. Read them until your heart believes these thoughts and the expanse of freedom that they provide you with. Read them aloud…read them silently…read them until you and these words become a part of you.

 It’s OK to say ‘No’.

It’s OK to stand up for myself.

It’s OK to terminate a situation if I feel disrespected.

 And

 It’s OK to trust my inner voice that seems to know more than what my eyes can see.

I respect people around me & understand, that they have a right to say ‘No’; a right to stand up for themselves and to terminate a relationship or a situation if they feel disrespected. 

There is just one set of rules.

Author – Rachna

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Rachna Sharma Sirtaj – Healing through Inner Wisdom
Motivational Thoughts

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with an abundance of Love & Peace

Rachna

© Copyright 2014. Tranquil Space Limited. All Rights Reserved

It’s time to change…

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Have there been times, when you have received a feedback about yourself that you thought did not fit into ‘your view’ of yourself? Have you ever been stuck in a conversation where you did not mean to say something or use a particular tone, but the other person insisted that you did? Have you ever caught yourself thinking – ‘Yikes…why did I say that’?

If the answer to any of those questions is ‘yes’ then here is a condensed version of an exercise that I have designed and which I use with my clients. It is a simple question and answer module in tandem with a well-known short verse, that might indicate your inner patterns and programming for the basic areas in your life. This module is a concise version. The module presented here or my blog post is in no way to be considered as therapy. This, as my other posts, is meant to be an indicator that directs you to the areas in your inner self that might need your awareness and attention.

The verse that I used here is one of the verses that I have often used in my trainings and workshops. It is a little poem by Dorothy Law Nolte. And oh, that term ‘little’ is a wee bit deceptive.

This exercise requires completely honest answers to some very simple questions. It is akin to standing in front of a magic mirror that tells you like it is. You will need a piece of paper and a pencil right away to keep by your side. Follow the steps of the exercise as you read them…starting now.

(Do not scroll down and look at what comes later on this page)

Exercise:

In your mind imagine – a safe place. A place that you consider comfortable and safe. It could be a spot under a tree, in your backyard or your own room. Now imagine a large mirror descending from the top and being placed right across you. Understand that this is the mirror of truth. This mirror does not allow any pretense and does not require us to wear our mask when we look into it. Take a good long look at yourself in this mirror. Look at your person as it really is. No additions no subtractions.

Now answer each one of the questions that I mention below. Mark a yes or a no on the sheet of paper that you have by your side. Before marking the answer … repeat the question out aloud or in your mind. Close your eyes and look into the mirror. Gather the answer and mark it on the paper. Complete honesty is what we are looking for. Making an answer look good will not help us in any way to get to a deeper understanding of ourselves.

Do I condemn others?Am I often critical of others?

Do I fight often?Do I argue a lot and try to prove myself right?

Am I apprehensive?Do I hesitate initiating a conversation or a transaction?

Do I constantly feel sorry for myself?

Am I shy?

Am I envious of others good fortune or lives?

Do I often feel guilty?

Am I a confident person?

Am I Patient?

Do I appreciate others?

Do I love myself?

Do I like myself?

Do I think I have a goal in life?

Am I generous?

Am I fair and just?

Do I trust easily? Do I trust others ?

Do I think the world around me is a nice place to live in?

Do I have peace of mind?

And we are done. Breathe in and breathe out…..this was just an exercise. No biggie. Every answer made you think and maybe a few made you squirm a little. Scroll down and read the little poem. Time to introspect. Time to remember. Time to put the pieces together…especially the ones that did not fit earlier.

 

CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE

Dorothy Law Nolte

 If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.

If a child lives with fear,
he learns to be apprehensive.

If a child lives with pity,
he learns to feel sorry for himself.

If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with jealousy,
he learns what envy is.

If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns to be confident.

If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with praise,
he learns to be appreciative.

If a child lives with acceptance,
he learns to love.

If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with recognition,
he learns that it is good to have a goal.

If a child lives with sharing,
he learns about generosity.

If a child lives with honesty and fairness,
he learns what truth and justice are.

If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith in himself and in those about him.

If a child lives with friendliness,
he learns that the world is a nice place in which to live.

If you live with serenity,
your child will live with peace of mind.

With what is your child living?

So dear one, It is Time to let go of the past. Time to drop the patterns that have been carried over years and years and perhaps even decades. Time to let go of the programming that was instilled in you by loving and caring adults who probably were not aware of the far-reaching consequences of their actions and the effects those would have on your life.

It is essential to remember that there is no need or reason to blame. What is required is the need to take responsibility for your own life today and the attitude that you would like to have as your own. Become aware of the pattern/s and with a glowing awareness change what needs to be changed. Take the responsibility and choose to decide that you will not further these patterns by passing them on further.

Remember you are beautiful as you are. You are an adult and you are responsible for yourself and your life. You can change that which does not fit your life today. You are strong. You are the master of your own destiny today and tomorrow. Take your power and allow yourself to sense it deep within your being.

Let go, change and move on.

Author- Rachna

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Rachna Sharma Sirtaj – Healing through Inner Wisdom
Motivational Thoughts

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with an abundance of Love & Peace

Rachna

© Copyright 2014. Tranquil Space Limited. All Rights Reserved

Poem Credit:  CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE – Dorothy Law Nolte

Picture credit: Motivational Thoughts on Facebook