And once the storm is over…

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I have read these lines over and  over for a long time now. I have used the last few lines many a times on my facebook pages. I truly believe they have been written by someone who has been thru a terrible sandstorm- physically in a desert or metaphorically in his life. The WILL to survive and the DETERMINATION to move on are the two factors that keep one going thru a storm. Bleeding body and an aching soul not withstanding. A storm is a battle. A battle of human determination and resilience vs forces that are beyond human control.  Determination and a will to survive is make us the exceptional species that we are. This determination takes us thru those terrible storms – stumbling, bleeding, puzzled, confused, helpless and yet so clear that We HAVE to get past this phase. And when we are thru, we are no more the same. We are different – from within. A deep understanding is awakened within us – I am capable. I am enough. I survived this once  I can survive another challenge again.

I can go on…but wisdom prevails, nudging me gently, reminds me that you would rather be reading those lines yourselves, that I am raving about. So here they are:

“Sometimes fate is like a small sandstorm that keeps changing directions. You change direction but the sandstorm chases you. You turn again, but the storm adjusts. Over and over you play this out, like some ominous dance with death just before dawn. Why? Because this storm isn’t something that blew in from far away, something that has nothing to do with you. This storm is you. Something inside of you. So all you can do is give in to it, step right inside the storm, closing your eyes and plugging up your ears so the sand doesn’t get in, and walk through it, step by step. There’s no sun there, no moon, no direction, no sense of time. Just fine white sand swirling up into the sky like pulverized bones. That’s the kind of sandstorm you need to imagine.

And you really will have to make it through that violent, metaphysical, symbolic storm. No matter how metaphysical or symbolic it might be, make no mistake about it: it will cut through flesh like a thousand razor blades. People will bleed there, and you will bleed too. Hot, red blood. You’ll catch that blood in your hands, your own blood and the blood of others.

And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

Haruki Murakami,   Kafka on the Shore

 

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with an abundance of Love & Peace

Rachna

 

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Happy 2016

Wishing you a fabulous year ahead

-Rachna

 

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We just are !!

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Merry Christmas

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Merry Christmas to my friends who celebrate the festival & Happy holidays to everyone who is in a holiday mode (literally).

Wishing you all a lovely day. Hopefully your families are around you, your homes are filled with love and peace and the kids (adult-sized kids included) will love their presents.

I am unable to shake off the knowing that there is unfinished business here at our end. Wishing, hoping and praying for peace on this earth and a resolution to all those desperate lives who are hanging around at the borders in EU and other places – asking for refuge – shivering in the cold, dark rain and those who are now sitting in refugee camps all over Europe – with no place to call their home.

Hopefully there is a better year ahead.

– Rachna

 

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On a cold winter day

At this moment any inspiration is good enough for a hibernating writer like me. Made this little woolen cap-thing for our Christmas Tree decorations – took some pics and was looking at the pictures on my phone this evening. The words  stumbled out. Good enough for me – for now.

If you see this post – I am grateful that you paused and spent the time reading the lines I scribbled  🙂2015-12-14 12.29.59

I glance back

And find you trapped

In my memories

From long ago

Like warmth

On a cold winter day.

 

-Rachna

 

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Be the change you wish to see

Lost in thoughts

 

(This post targets the hatred and mistrust that the Muslim community is facing all over the world – in view of the Paris attack. There were seven coordinated terror attacks in Paris carried out by militants, killing at least 129 people.)

 

It is saddening to hear generalizations that are being made, about entire communities, based on the ugly actions of some.

In times of crisis such as these, it would help to remember that we have been blessed with intelligent minds (I know I know I am generalizing here) that are capable of understanding a simple fact that – terrorism is based in minds – killing innocent people in Paris, Lebanon, Iraq or lynching a person on the streets because he or she went against your beliefs, raping a little child, because that child was available or abducting girls in Nigeria – each one of those qualify as terrorist activities.

Terrorism is terrorism, in all its heinous, wretched, evil forms. It is a disease of the worst kind and needs to be dealt with and eradicated. No terrorist should be allowed to go scot-free for killing and terrorizing innocent people.

However, terrorism has nothing to do with those innocent others in the community or race who by no choice of theirs, happen to have been born in the same religion/race/community/caste as that of the terrorists. All Muslims cannot be blamed for the horrendous criminal deed of Isis/Daesh…just as all Hindus cannot be blamed for the lynchings that took place because someone happened to eat beef nor can all Buddhists be blamed for torturing and killing Muslims in Myanmar or all Christians be blamed for the Wisconsin Sikh Temple massacre.

Terrorism is a cowardly, destructive instinct that hides behind religion, beliefs and a sense of misplaced entitlement. Anders Behring Breivik, KKK, Al Quaida, Daesh and many more like them are terrorists – All Christians, all Atheists, all Muslims are NOT. They cannot and should not be condemned because some terrorists belong to the same religion of community as them.

Using our beautiful, intelligent minds we can work towards finding solutions instead of spewing hatred over social media. Let us think before we speak or write on facebook/twitter and elsewhere and let us pledge to think twice before we question people and their loyalty. Social Media is free but our words  have value. It is completely upto us to make that value negative or positive.

Let’s choose to be tolerant, aware, magnanimous human beings just as we want our children to be – Let us model the behaviour not just for the times that we are in but also for our children so they can learn and grow up to be large-hearted, magnanimous loving people who can distinguish between a diseased terrorist and a religion/community in which the terrorist happened to have been born.

Today there is pain and trauma that all of us are dealing with – some directly and some indirectly. Many of us are broken-hearted with the violence that took place and the beautiful lives that were lost due to that horrifying, mindless violence – Not just in Paris but in so many parts of the world.

Awareness, Kindness, Understanding and Love might just be the right place to start the healing process.

“Be the change you wish to see”

 

– Rachna

 

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You never really understand a person…

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“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” – Harper Lee

And sometimes despite climbing inside a person’s skin, you may still not ‘understand’ them or what drove them to behave in a certain way. When you find yourself in that spot, it might be a good time to remember that you perhaps may not understand everyone and their behaviour but you have the infinite capacity within to accept and love them despite all that they are, all that they do…and however different they might seem to be. Your heart is filled with a love that is deeper than the ocean and you can choose to use that ‘depth’ to accept that which you cannot understand and that which is so different to anything that you have known.

Go on…try it.

©Rachna (Author)

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Life does not require us…

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“Life does not require us to be consistent, cruel, patient, helpful, angry, rational, thoughtless, loving, rash, open-minded, neurotic, careful, rigid, tolerant, wasteful, rich, downtrodden, gentle, sick, considerate, funny, stupid, healthy, greedy, beautiful, lazy, responsive, foolish, sharing, pressured, intimate, hedonistic, industrious, manipulative, insightful, capricious, wise, selfish, kind or sacrificed.

Life does, however, require us to live with the consequences of our choices.”

 

– Richard Bach

 

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Praying – by Mary Oliver

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It doesn’t have to be the blue iris,

It could be weeds in a vacant lot,

Or a few small stones;

Just pay attention,

Then patch

A few words together and don’t try to make them elaborate,

This isn’t a contest but the doorway into thanks,

And a silence in which another voice may speak.

Mary Oliver

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Go on…love someone !!

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Chained !!

Random stuff that lies around my desk fascinates me. I love looking at things *out of context*.  I also love placing, arranging and photographing stuff – be it books, flowers, my little Buddha or like today – the silver chain that I usually wear (and take off in the evening) and that one pearl, that has lain around on my desk for some vague reason (that I am clueless about). Both of these objects are not supposed to be on my desk and yet they are – out of their original ‘habitat’ – making them totally picture-worthy for me. Sooooo…here they are – enticing, delicate and beautiful.

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Take off that mask !

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Wearing a mask
Day in and day out
Lonely & exhausted
Carrying the charade, you think you must.
You begin to forget
Who you really are

That mask
Your protection & your barrier
Between you and you.
Alienating and crumbling
Fragmenting your sense of self
Tearing into your integrity

How did you forget?
The core of your being
Your beautiful soul
That exists without masks
Intrinsically quiet and observant
Willing to open up its fragrance to the world.

Oh, why do you cover all that beauty
With that unforgiving mask
I know, life has been tough
I know you surrendered
Took the incentive
And raised the barriers

But you are beautiful
Despite the tears that stain your cheeks
With all that you consider imperfect within
Along with broken dreams and that abyss of sorrow
Unmet desires and unfulfilled yearnings
Despite infidelities and broken trust

You are vast
You are infinite
I know you feel small
But that you are not
You are powerful
You are love and courage personified

And you are here, now
Standing tall in this precious space
Own your thoughts
Feel the eternal & the finite
For you are
The unmasked master of your destiny

©Rachna (Author)

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Dear Human … You’ve got it all wrong

 

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The other choice…

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Universe has a way of taking care of our needs.

Most of us have experienced times in our lives when we have felt beaten down to the bone, been accused unfairly, spoken about in an unjust manner, felt rejected, dejected, abandoned and humiliated by those we love dearly. The pain is excruciating and deep – mainly because in our perception, those we who we ‘love’ carried out this painful behaviour.

In our journey of emotional & spiritual growth, it is important to understand that people who indulge in that behaviour and more, are perhaps the best catalysts in our lives for us to learn the soul – lessons of acceptance, unconditional love and patience.

If we understand their role in our lives, then we would also understand that they are here to teach us acceptance of the ‘human’ in them, despite their behaviour. They provide us with an opportunity to learn to love them as they are – however hard a task that might be. They also provide us an alternate or complementary opportunity to stand up for our selves as and when required.

When we understand their role in our lives and in their contribution to our emotional growth, we are able to look at these souls with hearts filled with love and understanding. We begin to understand that most likely, they are unaware of how their behaviour affects us or anyone else for that matter. How can we possibly hold anger or misgiving against people who are saying things or displaying behaviour that is based in total unawareness? How does one stay angry with someone who is completely oblivious of the effect their behaviour is having on others?

Having said that, it is to be remembered that we cannot and must not absolve them of their responsibility for their behaviour. Words and actions never form on the tongue. They are born out of a thought process. When someone is obnoxious, rude or plain uncaring in their words and actions towards us, obviously they have made a choice to be that way. They had a choice to be rude, obnoxious, and hurtful OR to be silent (in their actions and words). They had a choice and they made a choice. Similarly we have a choice 1) to be furious with their behaviour and retaliate and/or break- up with them 2) we have a choice to understand their role in our lives and look at the positive outcome of such relationships 3) we also have a choice to ignore them, their behaviour and carry on as before.

In this article I am choosing to go along with choice # 2.

Every choice we make is followed by the consequences of that choice. Sometimes we think thru the consequences and sometimes we don’t.  Either ways consequences loom large on the horizon of every single action we take. The fact that someone chose to be hurtful makes them responsible for the consequences of their actions. Each one of us has a choice to act in a certain way – whatever the situation. Each one of us is responsible – for the consequences of the choice that we made. I know I am.

They choose to be hurtful and oblivious of effect of their actions, we choose to be understanding of their behaviours – whilst experiencing emotional and spiritual growth, and learning to safeguard ourselves.

Loving and accepting people who hurt us with their pain-inflicting words and hurtful actions, is our choice…similarly we also have a choice to limit our interactions with them to safeguard our boundaries from getting breached each time we interact with them.

You owe that to you and I owe the same to me.

As balanced we might be as individuals, whatever professions we might belong to, at the end of the day each one of us is a human being, encompassed with human emotions and fallibility. Just like a teacher may not know all answers all the time, a beautician may have a sudden attack of acne or have a bad hair day and an artist may feel completely deprived of creativity – there can be enough and more storms that rage within a human heart that are capable of creating an imbalance within a person – whatever the reason.

Understanding , acceptance and love are at the core of that we are all made of.

It’s our duty and our honour to find that core and work from it as a base for our day-to-day lives. When we come from love, understanding and acceptance – all battles dissolve. All that is left and surrounds us is peace and tranquility. We have started out on the path of letting go of addictive ‘needs’ and ‘wants’. We still have needs and wants but without the addictive factor that makes them rule our lives. It’s wonderful to understand those who inflict pain upon us through their behaviour, but it is also marvelous to understand our need to safeguard ourselves by understanding and limiting the toxic interactions.

As I said at the beginning of this post, Universe has a way of taking care of our needs – for the universe never abandons its child.

This morning as I looked around to find a quote for the readers on my Facebook page – this is what I chanced upon…something that was hidden in my archives and something that speaks loud and clear to each one of us – providing us with the required permissions and affirming our rights in the gentlest ways possible.

“You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you – it’s something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.”
― Daniell Koepke

 

Need I say more?

 

©Rachna (Author)

 

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You think you are the only one?

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The truth…

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Are you…

Disclaimer: This poem is not about me ( I wish it was, but it is not). It is based on feelings that ‘I felt’ when I saw a photograph of a man with his shades on – It was a powerful picture that spoke volumes (to me). This poem is an expression of my perception of his ‘probable’ feelings. And as we all know perception are just that – perceptions !!! But the picture moved me enough to help me create this little poem reflecting – resignation, annoyance, pride, courage, determination, helplessness as well as hope of self-perseverance. For that I am very grateful.

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You said you wanted to see my eyes

Are you brave enough?
To look into them
Without shuffling on your feet?
Can you bear to see the pain
And not squirm
Or fidget with your scarf?

Will you flinch when you see the raw anger
That oozes out…seeps
Simply because it’s tired of raging
Do you have the nerve to face
Your own sadness
Reflected in my eyes?

Can you stand quietly,
And not drop words
Of sympathy
Like coins in an empty box?
Nor look away
Because you cannot bear to feel my pain

If your answer is – Yes
Then I will undress my eyes
And let yours see thru mine.

 ©Rachna

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The Awakening

Someone tagged me in this beautiful post somewhere on the internet. It has been sitting in my drafts for a while now and perhaps today is the right day to share this on my blog. Hope you will sigh with happiness as you read this … just as I did.

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A time comes in your life when in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH … Enough of fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.

You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new-found confidence is born of self-approval.

Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties…and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin re-assessing and re-defining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not you job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people…and you lean not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

– Author Unknown

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Un-friending *that* Friend on Social Media

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I finally did it.

Whilst I support the right of all individuals to freedom of speech and expression – I also possess the right to choose NOT to expose myself to hate-filled- speeches, born out of that freedom of speech and expression. Of-late as I scroll down my news-feed on facebook, I cannot help but notice some *Friends* bashing race, mocking cultures, thrashing homosexuality, disrespecting ‘other’ religions or people and more.

Tolerant and easy-going as I am, I still feel their negative, mean & venom-filled words sadden my beautiful soul.

Just as them, I have a right to express my opinion, views and feelings about their expressions that  degrade other people, their religion, beliefs, their sexual preferences and everything else. Not a trigger-happy person, last evening I finally ‘unfriended’ someone – who could not stop his hatred against homosexuality from flowing out through his words. Yesterday afternoon the same person ‘displayed his knowledge’ of how hoodies, crime and black communities are synonymous with each other. This individual was not the last to be moved away from as there are many more I see, who do not feel the need to give a thought to the adage ‘Judge not, lest ye be judged’. Oh, If only they knew how kind the world is to them – for its pretty easy to judge such lives – mostly thru their own words and actions.

Even though, I respect and will defend everyone’s right to express their thoughts and views, I cannot bring myself to respect, leave alone defend, the degrading manner in which some people present their case. Is politeness so difficult to adhere to? Is civility so tough to practice? Is name-calling and dragging people through the cesspool of dirty words, the only way that makes some  feel superior? I will never know – for I do not understand and I refuse to accept that kind of behaviour. Fear is the basis of phobia. Often fear of finding that which frightens us – right within our own selves – can give rise to defensive behaviour. Sometimes these defenses are aggressive, impolite and inconceivably degrading. This pseudo-aggressive posturing and trying to intimidate others can greatly & negatively impact gentle souls that get exposed to the destructive frequency – just by the virtue of being in the same reading/hearing space.
Now, I have a choice to hide these people and their venomous views, from my news-feed on social – media. But then if I hide them, their views and do not see them in my news-feed, whats the point of having them as my friend on social media? Therefore, I might as well detach myself of such cumbersome burdens right away as I begin to become aware of them.
It has been a long time coming – No…not unfriending this particular person – but me finally understanding that tolerance for expression and views of others does not mean that I have to stand around and hear/read the hatred and vileness and feel my spirits sink. I can take action and choose to move myself away from them by simply clicking the *unfriend* tab that Facebook has so thoughtfully provided me with.
Social media gives us a magnificent platform to share our views (and venom apparently). Social media also give us the right to choose the kind of thoughts and expressions and the quality of people that we would like to surround ourselves with.
 

I have merely learnt to exercise my right today.

 

– Rachna 

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Friday…A day to let-go

1440x900_river_of_gold-197936Friday – a day for healing and letting go.

As the day moves on, allow your inner-self to become aware of the burdens that you are holding onto – lost hopes, broken dreams, pain of loss & sorrows. As the day proceeds – start saying goodbye to all that, which is making your heart heavy and burdening your soul. Each dream, hope, pain and sorrow has had a significance in the ‘map of the future’ that you chalked out for yourself. Each one of those dreams and hopes, signify your love for life and for your own self. They have meant a lot to you, but the pain of not being able to fulfill them is a heavy burden to carry in your heart.

This pain is not just heavy to carry, it also occupies a lot of space in your mind, disallowing you move on and think further. The sorrow and disappointment keeps you chained. It is alright to stay with the pain and experience it. Yet there comes a time when it has to be freed. The importance that these dreams had in your life signify that they deserve a gentle and respectful goodbye – a goodbye that acknowledges your desire as well as acknowledges the effort  you made to move towards achieving that desire.

The grief, no doubt can be overwhelming.

I visualize a flowing river in which I place my lost hopes, broken dreams, my sorrows, my grief and my pain…and watch them float away into the distant light. Sometimes It helps me to visualize myself tying each one of those dreams and hopes…pain and sorrow …to a beautiful balloon and letting them float away in the vastness of the sky, one after another. It just seems to be an immense relief to detach their lifeless forms from my own being and letting them go. I had found those dreams and hopes in this universe and as I free them, I am aware that I am letting them go back to where they came from.

There are times when all of that and much more does not help … not even a bit. Those are the times I know, instinctively, that I have to wait for another Friday…or just another day…wait a little or just a lot more. Those are also the times that let me know that I need to forgive more – primarily myself, for not achieving all that I set out to, and secondarily for placing my trust in sources that have not proven to be trustworthy.

Sometimes I need to talk it out – to a trusted friend or a mentor…seek solace in solitude or in tears…with the awareness that everything I am doing and feeling is an important step in the process of letting-go.

So, let this Friday initiate the process of cleansing your heart & your thoughts, unburdening you of all the broken pieces of your dreams and desires, that you need not carry anymore. Find comfort and peace in the knowledge that you are now free to start the process of finding new dreams and ideas that you would like to work towards – incorporating all the learning that you have amassed on the way.

©Rachna (Author)

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