No one else in this world can play your part…

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WORLD SUICIDE PREVENTION DAY
No one else in this world can play your part.
No one else in this world can take your place.
You have a right to live.
You have the right to breathe the air that surrounds you.
You are loved.
Sometimes it may be hard to feel that.
Sometimes it may be hard to see that.
And yet, loved you are.
You have fought with your circumstances.
Sometimes you won.
Sometimes you lost.
It’s OK.
Look back and see the mountains you already climbed.
Look ahead and see the roads that lie ahead.
Love lurks around those bends.
Happiness lies right round the corner.
Keep walking, soldier.
Life is not done – Not yet.
You are a warrior.
You are a trooper.
You are just YOU.
No one else in this world can play your part.
No one else in this world can take your place.
                                                            – © Rachna Sharma Sirtaj
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Precious gifts made of Gold

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Turning our backs on emotions, holding them in, not speaking about them, keeping them buried and then unloading them at the drop of a hat on an unsuspecting victim, is not only unfair, it also reveals the emotional growing-up that we need to do.

Emotions are not scary – not when they are ours…nor when they belong to others. Emotions are precious, priceless parameters that provide us with the obstacle course that helps our growth as a person. Learning to look at emotions as our friends instead of looking at them suspiciously or with fear, helps us learn to deal with emotions and express them with ease.

Of course, the process is not as easy as it is to read the above paragraphs.

A few things that one can do to become emotionally sturdier:

Identify your emotions

Become aware of your emotions

Find a chart that breaks down and points to the root-emotion.

Speak out your emotions

Write your emotions down

Observe emotions all around you

Understand the simple fact – YOU are a cluster of emotions

Love yourself – the emotion filled human form…traversing thru this life.

 

Author – Rachna

 

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How I go to the woods – Mary Oliver

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Ordinarily,
I go to the woods alone,
With not a single friend,
For they are all smilers and talkers
And therefore unsuitable.
I don’t really want to be witnessed
Talking to the catbirds
Or hugging the old black oak tree.
I have my way of praying,
As you no doubt have yours.
Besides,
When I am alone I can become invisible.
I can sit on the top of a dune
As motionless as an uprise of weeds,
Until the foxes run by unconcerned.
I can hear the almost unhearable sound
Of the roses singing.
If you have ever gone to the woods with me,
I must love you very much.

 

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72 and still young – Happy Independence day, India !!

Happy Independence day, India

72 odd years !! High time we grew up, don’t you think This year let’s decide to drop the religious bias that’s ruining lives, relationships and our neighborhoods…let’s safeguard our children and our vulnerable population and never hesitate to punish those who harm them … let’s get on to really helping our farmers and vow to make India clean again…in every sense of the word…rest of everything else is a breeze to accomplish for a fabulously spirited, young and largehearted nation like ours

Always grateful and proud to have an Indian origin and the best values that an all-accepting richest of rich culture (which I grew up in) inculcates

– Rachna

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Social Media & the self-proclaimed right to dispense one’s unsolicited views

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This morning I deleted a semi-angry comment from my beautiful dandelion picture ‘post’ on facebook and restricted an individual from accessing my profile.
Here is what happened:  I found a pretty dandelion lying across our patio, like a little puppy lazing in the sun. Of course it demanded a picture and I happily obliged. The picture was shared on Facebook as I have many contacts who appreciate such pictures and conversations with me. That was yesterday. I woke up this morning and as I checked the notifications on my newsfeed, I found one that indicated that someone had left a comment on my picture.
I clicked on the notification and was taken to the comment which to my horror turned out to be a semi-angry comment with frenzied words written in a ‘vigilantist-state’ of mind with many capital alphabets and enough and more exclamation marks giving an illusion of trees lined up in the forest. The comment basically demanded that I leave the dandelion alone for ‘bees and bunnies’ !! Though it was the written word but it did seem like the person was very agitated and upset. Of course I could be wrong and he could have been in a zen state of mind whilst writing what he wrote.  This man was insistent about the dandelion that SHOULD be left there as it is.
Here in the  spirit of full-disclosure I  would like you all to know that I do not have pet bunnies and no wild ones walk in and out of my garden. I am not too pally with the bees or flies or the dragonflies but we let each other live out our own lives.
So by the time I got down to gathering my thoughts and writing out this blog in the evening, the pretty dandelion is still here on my patio and will remain but the man was restricted from viewing my posts and will be leaving my fb contact-list very soon.
Now here is the thing – Of-late I am usually left appalled (jaw-dropped-to-the-ground kind of appalled) with the level of judgements that many social media users throw around – without a second thought. All they see is a post and the open comment section. With the dedication of an Everest climber – they get down to the task of leaving their unsolicited views, irrespective of the fact that the person who they are leaving the comment for may not even know them or care for the views that they are leaving.
Why is it so difficult for people to follow social norms when on social media? Would people simply barge into anyone’s living room and tell the residents off, while they were expressing an opinion in their own house? Is it necessary to push your passions and views on others, without knowing their interest or views?  And lastly how dare someone assume that I would not let the dandelion be? On the other hand. if I want to weed it out, how dare someone  stop me from making that decision?
Here is what I believe…My sense of humour, my life, my achievements and the mountains I climb every single day … cannot be automatically understood as soon as someone connects to me on facebook/twitter/linkedin or where-ever else. And this applies to each and every one of us. I own public pages with a large following as well as lead many groups that I run to help people. There are odd friend requests that come thru these public pages/groups and I do add some of these to my social media…especially those whose names are familiar due to their online participation on my pages. They usually are restricted from viewing my personal profile and have an access to my public profile, which is a great facility provided by facebook. Sometimes I may overlook this, add someone and forget to restrict them.  It does not happen often but happens nevertheless. I take this to be a work-hazard and deal with stuff, if something goes wrong, which it rarely does.
I do not know or claim to know anyone’s way of thinking and their way of life just because I am ‘facebook friends’ with them. When I have known someone for a while and we have made efforts to be friends with each other,  that is when I might qualify to  pass a remark on their intentions or ‘what I assume they might do to the weed’ or their life decisions, without coming across to them as judgemental or showing my ignorance about understanding the beauty of their being and their values.
But guess what? Even if I know someone well enough, I will not pass a judgement based on my assumptions.
I am not a keyboard warrior and refrain from extended tiring arguments on social media. Every one on social media has a right (and thinks has the might) to say what they want to say – I can offer my opinion to person X but I do not have to stay and argue when I know there is no space for a dialogue. I am also not inclined to give my opinion and jump in to change the world at every opportunity on a random facebook/twitter comments.
I have had enough years in my life and enough learnings to know that uninformed judgements do one job and only one job well —> that of irking the one who is being judged (this morning that irked ‘one’ was me 😡 ) and of revealing the mindset that the said judge-err carries around. Ok that was two jobs. My bad.
Being a conservationist, a vegan, an animal lover could be your calling and passion. That does not mean that all others who do not have a passion for the same do not respect life ( that of all species including plants) and need to be told-off or given life-lessons at every point your eye catches a word here or there on someone’s postings on social media. No. That is not required as you ( the judge-err <— see what I did there ? ) do not know what other person believes in or why the other person said what they said.
I know I could have let this be. Half way thru this monologue, I was actually feeling lazy…got a cup of tea…looked thru my mails and was generally very tempted not to write any more…but written down it had to be !!
Also what better time than a Tuesday evening to let out a heart-felt vent on facebook or as a change of plan demanded – on Wordspress.

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with Lots of Love & an abundance of Peace.

Picture Credit – Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

Model – A little weed called – Dandelion

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Learn your way around loneliness.

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“Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

When we understand our loneliness and get in touch with it or with that we ‘perceive’ as loneliness, we find out that we are yearning for something which is outside of us. We are looking around and craving to fill that loneliness by various means – by having a relationship (including ones that  might be one sided and/or toxic), by adding ‘friends’ to our lives, by filling up our hours with mindless activities, by entrapping ourselves into addictions or by doing a thousand other things that will fill up the minutes in our hours. And at the end of the day when we go to bed, we still have the same loneliness nagging us and freezing our hearts.

When we understand the above, we can then focus our awareness within and understand that we do not need to look out for external ‘things’ that fill our time. When we get in touch with our completeness we understand that we would be OK if we spent time with ourselves without seeking out another. We could enjoy the time spent with ourselves, with a book, a glass of wine and perhaps some music. We could go for a hike or a walk all alone. When one is comfortable with one’s own self – shortcomings as well as strong points – the sense of belonging starts to grow.

Once we stop buying into the notion that one needs ‘someone else’ for fulfillment and completion, life starts to ease up. We stop running after others and craving for company. We no more moan about the lack of a relationship or friends.We stop looking outwards and instead start feeling content and a feel a sense of ownership and belonging within ourselves.We discover aspects of us that we start loving and aspects of ourselves that we lovingly work upon. We start moving towards becoming more self-involved though not selfish. We understand ourselves and in turn the world around us much more than ever before.

Having said that, I must clarify that I am not promoting a social boycott or asking anyone to become a loner. Noway. Go ahead make friends, have fun and by all means share yourself with others. Do it to communicate, enjoy & enrich yourself and others instead of doing that to fill the ‘loneliness’ that you think you might feel, if you did not do all of those things.

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with Lots of Love & an abundance of Peace.

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You never really understand a person (2)…

Part 2 of You never really Understand a person

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And then there are times when you climb into the skin of another, wear their shoes and even feel where the shoe pinches – because you see, you both have the same contours on your feet. But you still do not understand why the other person behaved the way they did. So you take the advise that you previously read and imbibed. You do not try to understand them any more but work from that deep place of love within you and accept them. You expand your being and embrace the side of them that is hurting you so. You think the pain will ebb and become more bearable. You wait for it to subside. you wait and wait but it does not. Well, actually sometimes it does ebb and sometimes it does not. After all you are just as human as them.

So now what do you do?

Do you keep expanding and feeling the pain and the confusion as to why the pain does not go away when you are accepting someone from a place of love? Or do you put away your pain and obliterate it from your mind and your being?

You don’t do either.

What you do instead is – this time you understand yourself and look at yourself with the kindness that you would bestow upon another human being in pain. You understand your own self and feel love for this vulnerable person, that is you, who expanded themselves out of their comfort zone and out of their pain to embrace someone who hurt them. You did your best. You looked beyond their capacity to hurt and accepted them as they were. It did not change them or their capacity to hurt.

So now you look at yourself with the same kindness, love and empathy that you would feel, when you looked at your child with scraped knees and big large tears in those beautiful innocent eyes. This was an experience that taught you so much about them and about you.

It taught you to expand yourself and accept another without understanding them. It also brought you face to face with a beautiful new aspect within yourself. It got you in touch with you innermost depths and made you do something that is often not easy for us to do – To accept someone without understanding them.You did it. You held on.

Now it is time to take care of yourself.

You evaluate the pain and the consequences of this pain. You assess the other person and see them for the individual that they are. Do not cut corners. Do not give them a discount. Assess them and then choose if you would like to stay with the pain that you are feeling deep within your soul or would you like to let them go.

If you have chosen to let them go, you have made the right decision. Trust your instinct and let them go. Move away. Distance yourself.

Let go. 

Now.

You have done your part. Now it is time to heal the injured ‘you’.

  Let go of the sadness and the sorrow. The space that is emptied in your soul can be now filled with energy and brilliance of yourself and of those who really love you and care for you. Look around, find and acknowledge those who love you and never want to inflict pain upon you. Feel their love and energize yourself with genuineness and warmth.

Give yourself the time to feel. Give yourself the time to heal.

Be patient. Be generous. Be kind to you. Be all that you would be, towards another who was in pain.

Stay lodged … Stay quiet.
Take time to recover.
Take as long as you need to.
The rain will stop.
The howling winds will cease.
The sun will shine again.

And you will rise and bloom.

 

© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

 

Related reading : Octagon of letting go

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It is OK to say ‘No’

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Have there been times when you have caught yourself in a situation, you did not want to be in – because you agreed to do something that you reeeaaalllly did not want to do? Have you found yourself gritting your teeth and fuming mad with yourself for your inability to say a clear NO ? Have you found yourself stuck in a situation, that you promised yourself will not happen again, once again because you could not say NO?

I know I have been there. I know how awfully tough it was for me to say NO. I know how miserable I felt and how many I did not say NO, just to avoid looking at the disappointment in the eyes of others. I also know how much I struggled to keep up any promise that I had made, because I could not say NO.

That was long ago.

I have a come a long way and despite an odd instance now and then…it is fairly easy for me to evaluate the situation and consider the pros and cons before I make a commitment. It is not difficult for me to say NO when I feel deprived of time or resources on my part to undertake a commitment. It is simple if I trust the other person to understand my limitations…for they usually do.

It takes time and an awful lot of work on oneself to understand that when you say NO and mean NO, it is clear communication. You saying NO does not turn you into a bad person or an uncaring, hard hard-hearted monster nor does it reduce the other person into a pile of helpless crumbling rubble. It is advisable to trust the other person to understand your limitations or inability to make a commitment. Your inability or unwillingness to undertake a project or to do a favour to someone does not in any way mean that you do not care enough. Your inability to undertake a project or to do a favour to someone just reflects your inability to do so at that point in time. The fact is that when you clearly communicate that inability, it helps the other person to work out another solution without being wrapped in your unclear fog of  a ‘Yes…No…Maybe’  loop.

Below are some thoughts that might benefit you, as you read them. Read them as often as you need to. Read them till your soul remembers the magnificence of being. Read them until your heart believes these thoughts and the expanse of freedom that they provide you with. Read them aloud…read them silently…read them until you and these words become a part of you.

It’s OK to say ‘No’.

It’s OK to stand up for myself.

It’s OK to terminate a situation if I feel disrespected.

 And

 It’s OK to trust my inner voice that seems to know more than what my eyes can see.

I respect people around me & understand, that they have a right to say ‘No’; a right to stand up for themselves and to terminate a relationship or a situation if they feel disrespected.

There is just one set of rules.

 

– Rachna

 

© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

 

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There are days…

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There are days
When I sense a vibration
In the winds
That will change the course
Of my life
The life that I know in the ‘now’.
 
 
There are days
When I sense the storms
Approaching
To uproot and reposition
My being
A being that just ‘is’ in the now
 
There are days
When the tremble of destiny
Forebodes
The roar that it eventually will become.
Transforming
My breath, my being, my everything that ‘was’…in the now.
 
On such days
I hold my breath
And then release it with ease
Ebbing away
The fears
Of this frail human mind
 
Embracing the truth
Of knowing my ‘not knowing’
The abyss of the ‘unknown’ ahead
Juxtaposed
By the silhouette of the new mountain
That I was just beginning to climb.


© Rachna Sharma Sirtaj

Wishing you a fabulous day ahead…filled with Lots of Love and an abundance of Peace.

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